Homophobia literally means a fear for homos, in this case homosexuals, but that is not what the word stands for in our culture. In our time homophobia refers to a range of negative attitudes against the LGBT community in its totality; it stands for discrimination, hate, aggression, dehumanization, fear, negativity and anger against us. Often these negative attitudes are based on urban myths like the idea that gay men will rape straight men or worse, molest small boys. The fact that most rapists and pedophiles are straight does not change anything; like all myths these ones are not interested in facts.Swingers Information Superb Dating
Hetero-phobia was coined by homophobes claiming that they are not against homosexuals as such but against a group of homosexuals that threaten their heterosexual society by asking for a few basic human rights. Asking for equal rights to get married in this perspective are threatening the existence of the heterosexual family and everything it stands for. Hetero-phobia is therefore just a silly term coined to use against basic rights for homosexuals.
Academically interesting as the definitions above might be, it is definitely not what this article is about - luckily not. This article is about the effect that the above have on the families involved.
Dearest Mom & Dad
I am writing you a letter because I want to say a lot of things before you start to ask me questions, get mad or start crying. Don't worry it is not something you did, nor is it something that I did, It is just something that happened and I am still trying to figure it out; I really hope you could help me with this.
Mom, Dad; I am gay.
I need you to stay calm, I really do. I have read everything I could lay my hands on about homosexuality. You could say that I am now an expert in the field, so let me tell you what I have found. Please give me a chance to tell you the whole story, but first, an introduction:
Firstly I want you to understand that this is not something you did. Mom you did not make me gay by being over protective and Dad you did not do it because you could not always be there. Dad, an extra football, cowboy clothes or course in mechanics would not have changed anything; not letting me help you in the garage is not the reason. Mom, teaching me to cook was not the reason; letting me help you in the kitchen when I did not want to help dad in the garage did not make any difference.
Secondly you need to understand that this is not something I did. It is not because I hang around with the wrong friends because friends can not make you gay. It is not because I was playing with girls as a kid or playing with the wrong boys when I got older. It is not because I went to the wrong places, stayed away from church or because I did not like the pastor.
Mom & dad, I am not gay because you or I did anything wrong; I was born this way. If you do want to blame someone for this, I guess you could blame God and no, I am not judging God or making fun about Him. I am just explaining to you that if God created me, then He created me like this; created me gay. I am also not angry at Him for this. I really enjoy being gay and I think it is because He made me like this that I enjoy it so much. I am really thanking Him for making me gay because I would not like to be anything else. All the people who really went into this topic will tell you that a person does not choose this; you are born gay.
Hetero-phobia was coined by homophobes claiming that they are not against homosexuals as such but against a group of homosexuals that threaten their heterosexual society by asking for a few basic human rights. Asking for equal rights to get married in this perspective are threatening the existence of the heterosexual family and everything it stands for. Hetero-phobia is therefore just a silly term coined to use against basic rights for homosexuals.
Academically interesting as the definitions above might be, it is definitely not what this article is about - luckily not. This article is about the effect that the above have on the families involved.
Dearest Mom & Dad
I am writing you a letter because I want to say a lot of things before you start to ask me questions, get mad or start crying. Don't worry it is not something you did, nor is it something that I did, It is just something that happened and I am still trying to figure it out; I really hope you could help me with this.
Mom, Dad; I am gay.
I need you to stay calm, I really do. I have read everything I could lay my hands on about homosexuality. You could say that I am now an expert in the field, so let me tell you what I have found. Please give me a chance to tell you the whole story, but first, an introduction:
Firstly I want you to understand that this is not something you did. Mom you did not make me gay by being over protective and Dad you did not do it because you could not always be there. Dad, an extra football, cowboy clothes or course in mechanics would not have changed anything; not letting me help you in the garage is not the reason. Mom, teaching me to cook was not the reason; letting me help you in the kitchen when I did not want to help dad in the garage did not make any difference.
Secondly you need to understand that this is not something I did. It is not because I hang around with the wrong friends because friends can not make you gay. It is not because I was playing with girls as a kid or playing with the wrong boys when I got older. It is not because I went to the wrong places, stayed away from church or because I did not like the pastor.
Mom & dad, I am not gay because you or I did anything wrong; I was born this way. If you do want to blame someone for this, I guess you could blame God and no, I am not judging God or making fun about Him. I am just explaining to you that if God created me, then He created me like this; created me gay. I am also not angry at Him for this. I really enjoy being gay and I think it is because He made me like this that I enjoy it so much. I am really thanking Him for making me gay because I would not like to be anything else. All the people who really went into this topic will tell you that a person does not choose this; you are born gay.
